Valentine Day Online Dating Secret Friends Guide
Valentine Day For All Love Relationships
By John Rafter
Many gays and lesbians are torn about whether or not
they want to celebrate Valentine Day. On the one hand,
it does commemorate romance and love, and the love of
gays and lesbians is becoming more accepted and open
every day. So why not go all out, have the Valentine
theme party, give the chocolates and everything
else?
Yet it’s pretty clear that this day of romance is still
geared almost exclusively toward opposite-sex couples.
And in the gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered
(GLBT) communities, there are people who would rather
not join the traditional institution of marriage, and
who frequently wonder why they should participate in
the Valentine’s institution either.
Selling Gifts To Lesbians And Gays
Some lesbians and gays, on the other hand, wonder why
the corporations, always out for a consumer advantage,
don’t market Valentine Day more heavily toward a segment
of the society that is known, statistically, to easily
match any heterosexual demographic when it comes to
household income.
In the Out Front Blog (http://www.fhoutfront.com/2008/02/gay-teddy-bears.html)
in February of 2008, Rich Ferraro recounted his difficulty
in trying to buy two male teddy bears from a national
card and gifts retailer. Ferraro wondered why there
weren’t more options clearly designed for gay or lesbian
consumers, because the corporations could theoretically
make a lot of money that way.
A Quiet Valentines Day Dinner
Others don’t seem to feel that Valentine Day is something
they should get too bothered about, since the GLBT communities
have a lot more important issues to be involved in.
For some, it’s simply a matter of picking their
battles.
So those who do decide to celebrate the day are often
content to have a quiet Valentines dinner as a couple,
or perhaps go to a gay-friendly club for the evening.
There are also gay and lesbian cruises and resorts for
special getaways. Some simply feel they should review
and celebrate their love in a place they already know
is friendly to them.
Soul Searching With Love Relationships
There are a few companies and groups that cater to
the GLBT communities for Valentine Day, by producing
explicitly GLBT-themed cards and gifts. Yet in many
ways, this still contributes to "ghettoizing"
these communities, as they are kept out of the consumer
mainstream.
Yet those who don’t want to be absorbed by what Christopher
Isherwood called the "heterosexual dictatorship"
are content with the situation. It’s hard to believe
that a day that heterosexuals celebrate so matter-of-factly
might be a source of soul-searching and division for
gays and lesbians, but whenever love relationships are
involved, this tension seems inevitably to rear its
head.
About the Author:
John Rafter is an author of articles on romance, dating and gift ideas including
Gifts For Men,
Happy Valentines.
Keep a lookout as more articles are added from this author on this website in the near future.
More Valentines Day Facts....
Why would I need a Valentine’s Day Guide?
Technically you may not need a
Valentine’s Day Guide. You may already know the proper
gift giving rites and know just how much to give and
to whom it should be given. But there are occasions
when people draw a blank when it comes to Valentine’s
Day.
They need help trying to pick
out the perfect card, outing or gift to give the person
they are interested in or in love with. Some may even
refer to a guide to help create the perfect Valentine’s
Day party. There is a lot of information that a guide
can give you.
It may have special recipes to
make the day unique. It may give a listing of what is
practical to give and what is inappropriate. A guide
can help someone decide if the relationship is old enough
to even warrant a gift and can help them pick out the
right gift depending on how long the couple has been
together.
Though a guide may seem more
geared to men who have trouble gifting, in reality it
is a practical tool that can be used by everyone.
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