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True Love In A Relationship
By Jason Reed
True love is being there for each other. To feel the
hurt when she is feeling pain. To cry together. To finish
each others’ sentences. To know how to please
each other. Know her buttons.
If you have made the effort to please her and always
looking for solutions whenever there is a challenge
to the stability of the relationship, then you share
a true love, that cannot be broken.
Couples Looking For A Quick Fix
Being together, having children and growing old gracefully
is the stuff of many fairy tales. Reality is that many
couples end in the divorce court at the first serious
challenge to their relationship. Instead of looking
for solutions to maintain their relationship, they look
for a quick fix.
These days of the drive thru marriage and quickie divorce,
there needs to be greater attempts to review more options
and find solutions that will please both sides. Some
people need to change their ways as they grow older.
They cannot continue to live their lives the same way
as before they were married. Marriage has many pressures
and responsibilities.
Responsibilities Come With A Mutual Respect In Relationships
Once you are in a serious relationship like a marriage,
you cannot keep drinking to excess every night after
work, coming home drunk as a skunk and then beating
the wife cause there is nothing to eat. This kind of
relationship will not last as there can never an excuse
for domestic violence.
If there is no abuse in your relationship, but your
relationship is going downhill, cause your children
have grown and there are no more challenges to meet
in your relationship, then you need to make a bigger
effort to stay together. You could start over again,
as if you were dating for the first time. This may help
you find the reason why you wanted to marry this wonderful
woman. The reason you saw true love.
Examples Of True Love In Shakespeare And Movies
Much has been written on the topic of true love. When
you think of this term, Romeo and Juliet spring to mind
as the quintessential example of true love. This tragic
couple died for the sake of their impossible love, never
to be, in this world.
At the risk of sounding cynical, I’ve noticed that
how people define this elusive sentiment is tempered
by age. Do you remember the movie which posited, “True
love means never having to say you’re sorry.”? I always
puzzled over that one. Does it mean that neither person
ever does anything that requires an apology? Or does
it mean that, no matter what, forgiveness is automatic?
Teens In Love
As in the case of the tragic star-crossed lovers, Romeo
and Juliet, teens are most susceptible to believing
that they’ve just met their one and only, forever love.
While the passion is real, the concept is difficult
to pin down when your experience in life is limited,
your judgment is not fully developed and your hormones
are raging. Teens seldom have much to go on.
Both parties are presenting their best side. The girl
never allows her temper to show, doesn’t nag him and
does everything in her power to appear sweet and beautiful
at all times, when in his company. The boy is also on
his best behavior, with never a hair out of place, always
considerate and sensitive of his heart’s desire.
Short Teen Romances
Perhaps this is one reason that teen romances tend
to be short. Once the cat’s out of the bag, with a demonstration
of some of the less stellar qualities, it’s over. Yes,
true love can be fleeting.
With more experience through dating a number of people,
young adults feel they’ve sifted through enough less
than perfect partners to say unequivocally, that now,
they know that this person is the ’one’ and they
end up getting married. Young married couples dote on
one another, getting into occasional scraps which usually
resolves and dissolves quickly amidst hugs, kisses and
tears.
Babies Taking Too Much Of Her Time
When these couples begin having kids, the visage of
true love can get a little tattered around the edges.
Babies need lots of time and attention and Mom can no
longer spend all of her time with Dad. She may also
be a bit frazzled. This is about the time any illusions
about true love may come into question. “Why does she
snap at me?” “Why doesn’t he be more considerate?”
When two people truly love one another, these issues
can be resolved and put to rest, by making the necessary
life style adjustments to bring them back in sync, together.
Good communication skills are so important at this stage
of life, as is a willingness to communicate.
Keep Talking No Matter What!
By middle age, a couple who married young, know each
other well. They are familiar with every little foible
of their partner, good and bad. Keeping communication
lines open and honest helps love grow, not wane.
Some couples allow communication to dwindle to little
more than remarks made out of habit: “Can I see the
newspaper when you’re finished?” “What’s for dinner?”
“Did you pay the bills?” This type of conversation is
not the stuff of true love. Just habit.
Difficult Challenges To Your Relationship
On the other hand, some couples are continually making
efforts to keep the relationship fresh and interesting.
When the efforts are two-sided, true love flourishes,
through thick and thin. In all the years which have
passed since the love-struck stage, people can’t help
but know that life can dish up some pretty difficult
situations.
Couples who support one another are most likely to
describe their marriage as ’true love’. They can make
it through the rough times, notwithstanding the other
persons peculiarities and outright faults.
Many Empty Nesters End In Divorce
When the kids leave home, empty nesters who haven’t
nurtured and cultivated a loving environment between
them, sometimes fall away from each other, not having
an inkling on where that once-upon-a-time love went.
Sadly, many divorces occur at this juncture of life.
So what’s the old folk’s definition of true love? Couples
in adjoining rocking chairs might tell you that love
overcomes all. You need to accept the whole person you
married and fell in love with. Caring is mutual. No
matter what life has thrown in your path, you love them
anyway.
Marriage Is Forever
After all, marriage is forever, as promised at the
altar, "till death do us part". But if the
couple stays together for the sake of the children and
then find out how they really dislike each once the
children have gone, then the solution is to find reasons
to like each other. Maybe you can start dating each
other again. Starting again. Just like when you were
flirting as teenagers, you can now flirt again, without
worrying about the children seeing you flirting.
Once you start again, you may realise there are appealing
aspects that you really like and want to keep your relationship
going. You may want to be soul mates again. In the quiet
of the night, you may have found true love. The house
may be quiet, but you are glad to be healthy and feeling
very much alive, and want to grow old gracefully, together.
If you stay true and honest with each other, and do
not stray from each other, you should be able to find
true love.
About the Author:
Jason Reed is an author of articles on friends, flirting, dating, romance, relationships and gift ideas including
Shy Men,
How To Flirt With Women,
Nice Guys,
Successful Online Dating,
Dating Tips For Men,
Meeting Women.
Keep a lookout as more articles are added from this author on this website in the near future.
More Romantic Wedding Facts....
I’m getting married, should I ask my wedding party to give a speech?
That is a tough question. It comes down to whether
or not you intend to micromanage everything in the wedding. Speeches,
much like toasts, should be voluntary. No one wants to be forced to give
a speech they do not truly mean.
Making someone give a speech is a step away from writing
the speech yourself and having them read it aloud. It
is better for everyone if the members of the wedding
party wish to do a speech because it means that they
truly believe in the words they are saying. It should
not be about a formality but instead a blessing on the
future of the bride and groom.
If you have a real fear that no one will give a speech,
you may want to evaluate who is in your wedding party.
The wedding party should consist of people who love
you and wish you the best. If no one in the party can
or will do that on their own, you wouldn’t want them
to be a part of your special day anyway.
The exception to this is if everyone suffers from severe
stage fright or agoraphobia. The chances of that are
pretty small.
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