Same Sex Marriages Online Dating Secret Friends Guide
Same Sex Marriages And Perfecting Communication With Counseling
By Janine Jensenoris
Same sex marriages are legal in Belgium, Canada, Norway,
the Netherlands, South Africa and Spain, as well as
Connecticut and Massachusetts in the United States.
Vermont, New Jersey and New Hampshire offer "civil
unions."
In Maine, Washington, California, the District of Columbia,
Maryland and Hawaii, these out-of-state marriages are
at least recognized with limited same sex benefits.
There are many reasons for gay and lesbian couples to
desire marriage. Why shouldn’t these couples be
able to review their commitment and ceremonially express
their deep love for one another?
The Great Civil Rights Struggle Of The 21st Century
Why shouldn’t these couples be able to gain tax benefits,
property rights and hospital visitation rights as heterosexual
couples do? Though there has been much contention over
gay marriages, this small ceremony has become the next
great civil rights struggle of the 21st century.
In some ways, a same sex marriage will suffer the same
trials and tribulations as their heterosexual counterpart,
as both will argue about finances, power struggles,
household chores, child rearing, autonomy and intimacy.
Also, a 2008 study by the American Psychological Association
found that same sex couples are just as happy and committed
in their romantic relationships as heterosexual couples.
Two Incomes And Separate Bank Accounts
However, there are also a few differences between those
in same sex marriages and those in heterosexual marriages.
For instance, gay and lesbian couples fight less over
finances because they’re more likely to have two incomes
and separate bank accounts.
Instead of finances, power struggles are the most common
source of conflict for same sex couples. Even so, gay
and lesbian couples have a more egalitarian division
of labor, more autonomy and higher levels of positive
problem solving than their heterosexual
counterparts.
Should Seek Counseling Before Tying The Knot
While same sex couples may have an advantage over heterosexual
couples, it is still recommended that they see certified
counselors before tying the knot to perfect their communication
and problem solving skills to weather the complex issues
that may come their way.
Politically, widespread legalization of same sex marriages
still has a long way to go. Religious leaders outwardly
condemn such unions, arguing that we must "preserve
the sanctity of marriage."
Discrimination Is Unjust And Unfair
Other strict interpreters of the law argue that marriage
is defined as "the union between a man and a woman,"
and therefore cannot include civil marriages between
man and man or woman and woman.
Even so, many other politicians and members of society
feel that discrimination based on sexual orientation
is unjust and unfair. They advocate for same sex benefits
and unions that are not called "marriage"
to bridge the gap.
About the Author:
Janine Jensenoris is an author of articles on relationships, social skills, dating and flirting including
Lonely People,
Adult Personals,
First Date Conversation Starters,
Social Skills Lessons,
Difficult People,
Anger Management,
Flirting Tips For Men,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Conversation Starters.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
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