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Marriage Counselor Helps Guide Your Marriage
By Janine Jensenoris
Numerous studies have been done over the years to uncover
the major struggles that married couples have at various
stages of life, some of these disagreements delivering
the deathblow of divorce. For young couples, money seems
to be the major source of strife, in addition to household
chores as they adapt to new roles.
For middle-aged couples, it’s how to raise the
children and for seniors, it’s who will retire
first. While it may seem a personal matter, an impartial
marriage counselor can lend an ear and some expertise
to help you endure and review these waves, to find increased
marital satisfaction.
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, the counselors
say, as couples who weather the storm celebrate their
golden years as the happiest time of their lives.
Avoiding Painful Emotional Outbursts
You should endeavor to find a marriage counselor to
help you avoid painful emotional outbursts. If you or
your spouse spends any amount of time shouting at each
other, crying or getting stuck in a constant cycle of
derision and nagging, then counseling for marriage can
help.
Secondly, certified counselors provide added motivation
to complete your plan to regain that romantic love again.
Sometimes another person’s faith that your efforts will
be successful is all you need to believe it yourself.
Strategies To Achieve Your Goals
While these may seem like things you might be able
to do on your own, the third reason to seek counseling
is to gain access to knowledge and strategies to help
you achieve your goals. Over the years there have been
many studies into human behavior, which can help us
recognize our patterns of behavior and remedy the underlying
causes of our feelings.
Finding the right marriage counselor can be critical
to your success. "Be sure you find someone you
like and feel comfortable with. Finding the right person
can make all the difference," advises Dr. Ellyn
Bader, founder of The Couples Institute. She recommends
that you call around and rely on your intuition. "Does
the therapist seem interested in you?
Finding The Right Counselor For You
Do they ask you questions to get significant information,
or do they seem to be in a hurry to get off the phone?"
Secondly, if there are other glaring issues in your
relationship, such as abuse, alcoholism, drug addiction,
mental health issues or sexual dysfunction, then you
must find the counselors skilled in those areas.
"Therapists often choose a niche that they are
passionate about, and you can benefit from their additional
knowledge and training in those areas," says Stephanie
Buehler, director of The Buehler Institute.
What To Expect From Your First Counseling Session
You may be wondering what to expect from a marriage
counselor session. During your first visit, you’ll each
be quizzed separately, as well as together. You’ll acquaint
yourselves with the therapist and establish a rapport.
You’ll be asked about why you came to counseling for
couples, establish a few goals and work from there.
Often you’ll fill out a few questionnaires for the
counselor to go over after you’ve left and he or she
will come up with a plan for the next session. In the
second session, a strategy will be promoted to address
the marital problems and the session may last two hours,
rather than one. By the end of session two, you’ll have
a treatment plan and a few first assignments to work
on.
You may need to document the amount of undivided attention
paid to each other or keep a journal of your progress.
Each week you’ll report your successes and failures
to the counselor until your goals have been realized.
About the Author:
Janine Jensenoris is an author of articles on relationships, social skills, dating and flirting including
Lonely People,
Adult Personals,
First Date Conversation Starters,
Social Skills Lessons,
Difficult People,
Anger Management,
Flirting Tips For Men,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Conversation Starters.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
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