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Happy Love Relationships With Better Communication
By Janine Jensenoris
Nothing beats new relationships; the thrill, the passion,
the discovery, the bliss. You haven’t had time to notice
your partner’s annoying quirks yet, nor has your partner
noticed yours. Each day seems better than the last.
There has been no baby weight gained. There are no incessant
over-time hours to make ends meet.
There are no nagging in-laws or conflicts over child-rearing
and chores. Despite the obvious benefits of early dating
relationships, there is one key drawback; there is also
no security. Once the knot has been tied, there is tremendous
potential for the deepest love relationships to blossom.
With love, understanding, encouragement and daily effort,
marriage reaps many rewards.
Fixing Communication Problems
The first step for creating happy love relationships
is fixing any communication problems. Dr. David Burns
suggests overcoming the silent treatment through a technique
called "multiple choice empathy," where you
take on full responsibility for the other person’s feelings.
You might say a statement like, "I see you don’t
want to talk to me. Is there something you’re upset
about?
Perhaps I didn’t listen to you as well as I should
have or I tried to tell you what to do. I feel really
bad that I’ve done this to you." In most cases,
the other person will open up. If your partner is overly
critical of you, the best move, Burns says, is to accept
responsibility and make the statement more positive.
Lets Make Things Right
For instance, if your partner accuses you of being
a control freak, you might respond by saying, "I’ll
admit I have a tendency to be controlling at times."
Then reaffirm how much the person and relationship means
to you, mentioning your desire to make things right.
The next step for creating happy love relationships
is to focus on your sex life. In your early years, this
may have been the glue holding you two together and
in later years, this is often a neglected area that
drives couples apart. There is no magic number for how
often to have sex in a marriage, but it should be discussed
and mutually agreed upon.
More Sex May Bring More Intimacy
Don’t worry if every encounter isn’t Hollywood-caliber
either. Think of sex like pizza. Even if it’s lousy
pizza, it’s still not too bad! For some couples, more
is merrier. Having more sexual intimacy makes each time
feel more spontaneous and less stressful.
However, with busy schedules, other couples may be
settling for a few quickies, arranging a special weekend
getaway, waking up an hour earlier or talking dirty
to build up the sexual tension until they can’t help
but make time.
To borrow from another food analogy, think of sex like
chocolate cake: after five days of eating chocolate
cake, it might not taste as good, yet after five days
of talking about it, that chocolate cake sure sounds
good!
Making Life Together More Interesting
Lastly, you can have better love relationships when
you enrich yourselves separately. For instance, you
shouldn’t give up your love of skiing just because your
partner isn’t interested. When you get together after
a weekend in Vermont with your friends, you can share
photos and stories from your trip to make life more
intriguing.
The saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder"
rings true in most cases. New relationships are often
so exciting because you’re constantly learning about
the other person. In the same way, pursuing different
hobbies can add a freshness to the relationship.
About the Author: Janine
Jensenoris is a popular author of dating articles including
Adult
Personals, Blind
Dating, Chat
Websites, Real
Friends, Adult
Party Favors, Conversation
Starters, Abusive
Relationships, Difficult
People, Anger
Management, Interracial
Relationships.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
More Relationship Facts....
There never has been and never will be a "perfect"
relationship. In a relationship there are always ways
to improve it. It may mean reintroducing passion back
into you and your partner’s life.
It could be scheduling a date night to get away from
the kids. Relationships take a lot of work and many
times people do not realize they need relationship tuneups
as much as they really do. It is hard admitting that
things are not quite so rosy and cheerful. But with
the right help and guidance, you can put your relationship
back on track.
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