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By Janine Jensenoris
You’ve heard it said at least a dozen times that communication
is the key to long-lasting, healthy relationships. It
seems that this love advice is easier said than done,
however. "Communication" can so easily turn
into shouting matches that make your blood boil
over.
Other times, it may feel more natural to just bite
your tongue and avoid a conflict all-together. It’s
not always clear who is right or wrong in every situation,
which further complicates matters. The good news is
that there are ways to review your options by using
exercise mental capabilities, which will, in turn, have
positive effects on your relationships.
Overcoming Obstacles In A Relationship
"Cognitive Restructuring" is a technique
marriage advice counselors often recommend to exercise
mental processes. One of the hardest obstacles to overcome
is negative thinking. It’s important to understand that
beneath depression symptoms and mood swings is that
inner dialogue we carry on with ourselves.
By challenging the naturally arising thoughts that
come to us, we can transform our negative thoughts and
feelings into a more controlled, positive frame of mind,
which will have a positive impact on our intimate and
social relationships as well. A good exercise is to
write down your fleeting thoughts.
Calming Yourself With Relaxation Techniques
Then identify what evidence supports this conclusion?
What evidence refutes this conclusion? What other possibilities
are there? You may also need to learn relaxation techniques
to calm yourself, become more assertive to deal with
the situation or practice positive affirmations.
In her relationships advice, Dr. Linda Miles tells
patients to exercise mental depth through writing. In
one exercise, she says to write down all the behaviors
that led you to fall in love with your partner. How
did he act? How did you act? Then observe whether these
behaviors still exist or if they’ve dwindled.
Restoring Positive Behaviours In Your Relationship
For instance, are you still looking into your lover’s
eyes? Are you still enjoying sex at least once a week?
Do you tell your partner of your love? In essence, what
behaviors would you like to restore to your relationship?
In another exercise, Dr. Linda Miles recommends writing
down behaviors that bug you about your partner.
Are these issues similar to the past? What are your
underlying concerns? How might you fuel these issues?
Ultimately, your goal will be to discover how you can
change your actions to elicit a more positive response
from your partner.
Write A Letter
You can’t always be thoroughly pleased with your spouse.
Yet it’s not healthy to blow up over every little thing
either. Writing a letter is one good exercise mental
tactic to deal with your emotions. Once you finish writing,
you’ll often arrive at a more mature point of view and
be able to really get to the heart of the matter.
Often we’re not truly upset about the dishes being
left unwashed. Our real feeling is that we’re not appreciated
or listened to, perhaps. You may realize that your bad
relationships have little to do with your partners and
more to do with your deep down fears or insecurities.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, you may want to
write out some of the things you love about your partner
to rekindle a relationships romance.
About the Author:
Janine Jensenoris is an author of articles on relationships, social skills, dating and flirting including
Lonely People,
Adult Personals,
First Date Conversation Starters,
Social Skills Lessons,
Difficult People,
Anger Management,
Flirting Tips For Men,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Conversation Starters.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
More Relationship Facts....
There are times in every relationship when one partner
begins to question if that relationship is right for
them. No, it does not mean that they do not love you
or that you do not love them. It may just be an issue
of communication.
It could be a fight that has been left unresolved and
bitter feelings remain. The fact is that all relationships
need relationship tuneups every once in a while. It
is a chance to learn more about your partner and can
even help ease the making up process after a fight.
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