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Effective Parenting With Shared Responsibilities
By Janine Jensenoris
Our culture tends to try to lump parents into two categories:
bad parents and good parents. But they do so with erroneous
factors. A bad parent is not someone who looks poor
or on social dependence programs.
They do not have to be living in trailers or feeding
their children on welfare in order to be a bad parent.
That is a fallacy and one that tends to be egregiously
misinformed. The best household is one where effective
parenting is implemented and followed under a regular
basis.
First time parents find themselves facing a lot of
unknowns and worst case scenarios. The mind has a tendency
to run amuck with parenting books and magazines giving
out the bad things that can happen.
Thinking About Solutions
They do this to prepare and give some knowledge about
situations that other parents have faced. It does not
mean that it will happen. It does not guarantee that
it will not happen. It is just transference of
information.
All battles need a thought out battle plan. It is not
so much that raising children is a battle but there
is a definite need for forethought about issues that
will arise.
Friction Over Parenting Styles
The plan does not have to be rigid but it does need
to address key factors in raising a child. If it is
a two parent household, disputes over parenting styles
can arise and cause internal strife.
Discipline is the number one cause of disputes among
parents. Some parents firmly advocate its use, in limited
amounts, whereas others believe that it is a hindrance
to effective parenting because it teaches physical
violence.
Building Up Resentment Over Parenting Responsibilities
This is a personal choice. There is not any concrete
information on whether or not there are long term effects
when spanking is utilized.
Parental involvement is another area for discontentment
and conflict. If one parent is shouldering more than
his or her share of the work, then resentment can build
up. There is also a lack of bonding that occurs with
the child.
Spreading The Workload More Evenly
There are factors that some parents cannot help such
as the need for income. But fortunately there are ways
around this that can help spread the work load out more
evenly and allow for both parents to stay actively involved
in their child’s life.
Effective parenting is not simply a choice about what
a curfew is. It is a lifestyle that has to be maintained
day in and day out. It is about giving structure and
support in a way that allows all people involved to
have an input and an ability to review options.
Look For More Than One Source Of Advice
Styles and means will vary from family to family. Not
all families are two parent households so there are
special considerations that should be kept in mind when
reading parenting books and magazines. Most publications
target twenty and thirty something married couples.
Same sex partners, women over the age of 45 and single
parents can often feel left out.
As a parent, advice is everywhere. The best advice
is to have more than one source in case one piece does
not work. Perhaps parenting is not a choice for everyone
but those who do decide to be a parent need to do the
best they possibly can to love and protect their
children.
There will be days when it seems too hard but a short
temper is no excuse for abuse or neglect. There is help
out there for those good and bad times.
About the Author:
Janine Jensenoris is an author of relationships, social skills and dating articles including
Mother Daughter Relationships,
Social Skills Lessons,
Abusive Relationships,
Difficult People,
Marriage Crisis,
Anger Management,
Interracial Relationships,
Chat Site,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Conversation Starters.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
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