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By Janine Jensenoris
In Judith Wallerstein’s book "The Unexpected Legacy
of Divorce" (2000), she followed 100 children of
divorces from childhood to adulthood. She found that,
years later, the pain of their parents’ divorce still
affected their relationships, work and parenting. She
found that people whose parents divorced are more likely
to be become delinquent, be sexually active, suffer
alcoholism or get divorced themselves.
However, the real impact of a divorce reaches a crescendo
when the kids are in their 20s and 30s and feel despondent,
as though they could never expect a relationship to
succeed. Before the kids are affected, the help of marriage
counselors should be sought out.
Counselors WIth Skills In Financial Planning
Divorces are frequently caused by financial hardship.
Therefore, the counselors who could help most are often
skilled in financial planning. "I’ve never seen
a case in my 18 years of doing this where there hasn’t
been a reason to have hope," said Karin Maloney
Stifler, a certified financial planner from Hudson,
OH.
She said she sees a lot of couples who are affluent
but failed to save up a sufficient enough nest eggs
to keep them afloat during tough economic times. Karyn
Pistone, a financial planner from Beachstone, says she
counsels a lot of people who are big spenders, often
reaching beyond their means with credit and winding
up in massive debt. The advisors say the best marriage
therapy is in forming common goals and a united plan
for spending and saving.
Mental Health Counselors
Another option is to attend divorce counseling with
mental health counselors, rather than attorneys. "Divorce
counseling" is sort of a misleading term because
it’s intended to smooth the divorce process, rather
than prevent it.
If you’ve tried seeing licensed counselors and
realize that there’s no other alternative, then
divorce counseling can help avoid an expensive and hotly
contested court battle. Often divorced couples feel
deep resentment over property or the kids, which can
be avoided by seeking divorce assistance and review
their options.
With therapeutic help, couples can gain a sense of
closure and prepare for their separate futures. They’ll
gain help deciding upon property division, child custody/visitation,
child rearing and coming to a fair agreement.
Divorces Leave A Lasting Impact On Children
It’s obvious that divorces hurt those directly involved,
but they also leave a lasting impact on the children.
Once this failure takes place, everyone is left paranoid
that their partnerships will fail in much the same way.
Underlying, uncommunicated fears and negative emotions
can come back to sabotage relationship after relationship.
Therefore, it’s a good idea to try a family marriage
counselor before taking drastic measures to rethink
your situation. In the end, it could save you thousands
and a lifetime of regret.
About the Author:
Janine Jensenoris is an author of articles on relationships, social skills, dating and flirting including
Lonely People,
Adult Personals,
First Date Conversation Starters,
Social Skills Lessons,
Difficult People,
Anger Management,
Flirting Tips For Men,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Conversation Starters.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
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