Conversation Starters Online Dating Secret Friends Guide
Conversation Starters To Break The Ice
By Janine Jensenoris
Conversation starters is when you can approach someone
with a relevant question or an observation. If you get
an answer with a smile, that means you have broken the
ice.
For example, you may be looking for a partner and you
see a pretty girl and you think she looks interesting.
You notice she wears the same brand sun glasses that
you like. You take your sunglasses out and look at her
eyes and say, "Look I just noticed you wear the
same brand sunglasses as me! Christian Dior is the best,
isn’t it?"
She has two options, she can smile and respond to your
question, or she can ignore you.
Sun Is Shining Through The Door
If she responds with an answer to your question and
then she asks you a question, things are brightening
up. The sun is shining through the door and the door
is open wide. The next step is to continue the conversation,
as the period for conversation starters has passed successfully.
There are people who have difficulties in approaching
people, to take the first step of conversation starters.
A Room Full Of Strangers
Are you one of those shy types that have a hard time
in a room full of people because you can’t seem
to think of anything to say? Do you find it difficult
to walk up to someone you don’t know and get a
conversation going? If so, you’re certainly not
alone.
Conversation is an art that must be cultivated, just
like a bed of flowers, in order to get good results.
It’s not difficult, but it does take practice. Let’s
look at a few ideas you can use for conversation starters
at the next opportunity that presents.
Let’s say you’re in the grocery checkout, or at a bus
stop. There’s a matronly lady, rather ordinary except
for her eyeglasses, which are tinted purple in the top
half, fading to a vivid pink in the lower half.
Flattery As A Conversation Starter
Now there’s a conversation starter waiting to happen.
Instead of standing there, mutely staring, try this
approach.
“Your glasses are so pretty! They’re very
unusual. Where did you get them?” A perfect conversation
starter, well suited for your practice.
The woman is bound to be flattered that not only did
you notice, but you’ve complimented her on her good
taste. She will undoubtedly respond in a friendly way.
Be A Good Observer And Listener
Even if you’re the shyest of people, being a
good observer and listener is your key to breaking the
ice with very simple conversation starters, to get the
ball rolling.
Quiet people are often good observers and therein lies
your opportunity. Look for signals from other people
which declare their individuality. These signals may
not be overt expressions and may indeed be subtle.
For example, at a party, you may spot an attractive
man or woman with whom you’d like to strike up
a conversation. Instead of focusing on how you look
or agonizing over what they may think of you or a potential
rebuff should you approach them, look to them for conversation
starters.
Focus As A Conversation Starter
Perhaps that woman you’re dying to approach is
wearing a T-shirt emblazoned with a “Save the
Whales” logo. There you go. Aha!
Another conversation starter. You just waltz over and
begin with something like “Excuse me, I noticed
your shirt – a friend of mine is really into environmental
issues, but I don’t know a lot about the whales
thing ...”. These types of conversation starters are
sure to have the lady talking a blue streak in no time.
Focus On Their Interests
Just remember to focus on the other person and their
interests rather than your own. Be a good listener and
observer, and conversation starters will be a piece
of cake!
You can give a good impression when you respond to
what the other is telling you and continue the conversation
with a question. That way you can exchange ideas and
inform each other about your likes and dislikes and
see if you are compatible.
Look Around And Look At The Person
As you review and practice being a conversation starter
with a number of people, always look around, look at
the person. See if there is anything you can use to
start a conversation. It is easier with someone you
know.
You can practice being a conversation starter with
your friends and relatives and then progress to starting
conversation with total strangers.
Once you have accomplished this step, then you are
on the way to being a good conversation starter.
About the Author:
Janine Jensenoris is an author of articles on social skills, relationships, dating and flirting including
Lonely People,
Adult Personals,
First Date Conversation Starters,
Anger Management,
Flirting Tips For Men,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Women Relationships.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
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