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Building Relationships Over Long Distances
By Janine Jensenoris
Long distance loving is not easy. Instead of hanging
out with your friends, perhaps you’ll be tied up on
the phone for hours. Rather than enjoying a romantic
Valentine’s Day dinner, you’ll be mailing your love
a care package and anxiously awaiting the response.
Daily lovemaking is a dream but semi-annual trysts
are the reality. It takes a lot of reaffirmation to
serve as the glue holding your relationships romance
together, but building relationships that transcend
geographical boundaries can be extremely rewarding as
long as you both have the same long-term commitment
and goals.
Good Long-Distance Phone Plans And Internet Access
High-quality communication is the most important method
for building relationships that transcend distance.
You’ll need to make sure you both have good long-distance
phone plans and internet access. Webcams and video chats
via Skype are good ways to close the distance gap with
technology.
It’s important to discuss how much communication time
is necessary to make each partner feel connected within
intimate relationships. For one person, it might be
contact every few days, but for another person it may
mean a daily phone call or email. Some people need just
ten minutes on the phone, while others need hours.
Time Communicating Is Quality Time
Try to make a regular schedule to ensure time is made
for one another. If time is scant and schedules don’t
jive, then it’s critical that the time spent communicating
is quality time. Many long distance lovers spend a good
portion of their time saying their "I love you’s"
and reiterating what they love about their mates.
Of course, problems inevitably arise when you’re
dealing with long-distance communication because the
modes of instant messaging, text messaging emails and
webcams are so impersonal. It’s hard to gauge
intention when you don’t have body language, facial
expressions or tone to indicate what a person means,
apart from the time you are webchatting on web cams.
Chatting Via Video Web Cam
Building relationships through love letters, sending
gifts in the mail and chatting via web cam can be a
meaningful way to ensure there is no room for misunderstanding.
Planning trips to see one another gives those involved
in long distance romance relationships something to
look forward to.
There are certain elements that can reverse all the
good work you’ve spent on building relationships.
For instance, there is no room in long distance relationships
for negativity. Being far away shouldn’t be a
depressing reality to constantly reiterate and review
your options.
Focus On The Positives
Instead, focus on upcoming dates, sharing life’s moments
with one another and revel in the bond you’ve managed
to create, despite the odds. Additionally, avoid jealousy
and mistrust. The best way to kill healthy relationships
is to start acting suspicious and paranoid.
It’s perfectly natural for both of you to have a social
life and your partner wouldn’t carry on the relationship
if he/she wasn’t serious about it, since it’s certainly
not easy or convenient. Lastly, it’s important that
you never try to control your partner. You need to fully
trust one another if you hope to keep the relationships
romance in tact.
About the Author:
Janine Jensenoris is an author of relationships, social skills, dating and flirting articles including
Lonely People,
Adult Personals,
First Date Conversation Starters,
Social Skills Lessons,
Difficult People,
Anger Management,
Flirting Tips For Men,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Conversation Starters.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
More Relationship Facts....
There are times in every relationship when one partner
begins to question if that relationship is right for
them. No, it does not mean that they do not love you
or that you do not love them. It may just be an issue
of communication.
It could be a fight that has been left unresolved and
bitter feelings remain. The fact is that all relationships
need relationship tuneups every once in a while. It
is a chance to learn more about your partner and can
even help ease the making up process after a fight.
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