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Build Relationships With Solid Foundations
By Janine Jensenoris
Healthy relationships are at the apex of a happy life
full of success, love and personal fulfillment. While
the early stages of a relationship are often full of
bliss and are easy to manage, somewhere along the line
conflicts arise and personality quirks may wear on us.
We may find that this person we once had "so much
in common with" now holds beliefs we simply can’t
stomach. The truth is that to build relationships, partners
must work at it, they must value it and they must commit
time to it each day.
Seven Pillars Of A Healthy Relationship
To build relationships that are strong, we must build
our foundation upon seven pillars. The first pillar
is honesty. You must be honest with yourself and with
your partner to create close interpersonal relationships.
With honesty comes trust, and you must be able to trust
your partner in every way and put keeping their trust
as a top priority.
The third pillar is respect. You must respect each
other’s strengths, shortcomings, dreams, goals, personality
and opinions. The fourth pillar is communication, which
requires time, attentiveness and good listening skills.
Attention is the fifth pillar, which means showing that
you’re thinking about your partner, enjoying time together
and sending positive energy their way on a regular basis.
Trusting, Sharing And Respecting
The sixth pillar is intimacy. This entails more than
just sexual relationships but also letting your guard
down, trusting, sharing and respecting the other person.
The last pillar is commitment, which is essential to
a good, strong relationship.
To build relationships that work, we must understand
how emotions play a major role in our satisfaction.
Our culture portrays many emotions negatively, leading
many people to try to suppress, avoid or control their
emotions, rather than experience and analyze them.
Taking Steps To Calm Down
When you begin to feel angry, think about how your
heart rate increases and you breathe more rapidly. Focus
on that feeling and take deep breaths to calm yourself.
Try to identify the immediate and underlying causes
of your feelings. Sure, you may feel mad at that sink
full of dishes, but perhaps what you’re really upset
about is the seeming lack of respect for your cleanliness
needs.
Before flying off the handle, you should come to grips
with your emotions and then try to communicate effectively.
Instead of accusing, saying "Why do you leave the
dishes in the sink," you should say "I feel
hurt when I see a sink full of dishes." By following
these tips, you can improve almost all of your social
relationships.
Fighting Over Money And Allocation Of Chores
Once you build relationships, much like building a
house, you’ll need to perform routine maintenance to
prepare for life changes. Part of weathering the storm
of love marriage and long term relationships is learning
to understand what life challenges may threaten to shake
your foundation. The top things partners in new relationships
fight about are money and chores.
Spouses argue over debts, spending habits and saving
for the future. Sixty-four percent of newlyweds merge
their finances together, but this approach isn’t necessarily
the right move for everyone. As for chores, it’s important
that both partners write out lists and stay organized,
divvying up chores in a fair way. Later in life, spouses
may argue over their relationships sex, the time spent
working and how to raise the kids.
Older couples generally don’t fight often but deciding
upon retirement could create feelings of jealousy if
you don’t communicate your retirement timeline, dreams
and goals.
About the Author: Janine
Jensenoris is a popular author of dating articles including
Adult
Personals, Blind
Dating, Chat
Websites, Real
Friends, Adult
Party Favors, Conversation
Starters, Abusive
Relationships, Difficult
People, Anger
Management, Interracial
Relationships.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
More Relationship Facts....
There are times in every relationship when one partner
begins to question if that relationship is right for
them. No, it does not mean that they do not love you
or that you do not love them. It may just be an issue
of communication.
It could be a fight that has been left unresolved and
bitter feelings remain. The fact is that all relationships
need relationship tuneups every once in a while. It
is a chance to learn more about your partner and can
even help ease the making up process after a fight.
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