Blind Date Online Dating Secret Friends Guide
Blind Date vs Online Date - A Comparison
By Janine Jensenoris
Blind dates are usually arranged by well meaning friends
who are trying to tie you up with someone they think
you have common interests. The risk of failure is quite
high.
Online dating involves reading a dating profile on
a dating website, chatting on a chat channel, exchanging
emails, talking on the phone.
During all these exchanges you can get a feeling if
this guy shares with you similar likes and dislikes
and if you are going to get on really well with each
other.
The chance of success is quite high cause you know
a lot about the guy before you meet him on a face to
face date.
Consider this as an example. Your friend has decided
that you need help with your social life so she sets
you up with a blind date. A friend of a friend of a
friend.
You, foolishly, accept. Now there you are. It’s less
than one hour since you were introduced. You are sitting
in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food.
Dull As Dishwater
The entrée has not yet been served. His idea
of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final
four and you aren’t into sports on TV.
He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim. You haven’t
sat through a movie in months because you run marathons
and volunteer at the local food bank.
He says, “Volunteering is a waste of time because you
can’t help ‘those people’ anyway.” You look at your
watch; see that it’s only been 10 minutes since you
last looked at it the last time and wonder how long
it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from
the situation. Been there?
A New Beginning With Online Dating
Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet
dating and have been chatting online and exchanging
emails with for quite some time.
First, you don’t need to be introduced. You already
know this man. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant
enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that
the other’s favorite meal is Italian.
You Already Know This Man
The conversation flows easily as you discuss common
interests. He runs marathons and loves history just
like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work
that each of you is involved in.
You look at your watch and discover that you have already
been here for three hours, where has the time gone?
Sharing Your Tastes And Interests
There is a big difference between a well-intentioned
friend “setting you up” and choosing a man
for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn’t
there?
Now which one would you rather have?
Online dating gives you the chance to prepare before
you meet the guy. You can read and review the dating
profiles on a dating website, you can chat on a chat
channel and exchange emails.
Listen To His Voice On The Phone
Things get better when you can hear each others voice
on the phone. From the voice you can tell if the guy
is genuine and he is really interested.
With a blind date, it is like the blind leading the
blind. You do not anything about the guy, apart from
what your well-meaning friend has told you, and you
have never met him. The risk of wasting your time, is
very high.
So online dating wins, hands down.
It is a no contest.
About the Author:Janine
Janine Jensenoris is an author of dating, social skills and relationships articles including
Social Skills Lessons,
Chat Site,
Real Friends,
Adult Party Favors,
Conversation Starters,
Abusive Relationships,
Difficult People,
Marriage Crisis,
Anger Management,
Mother Daughter Relationships,
Interracial Relationships.
Keep a lookout for more articles coming soon.
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